Struggling With Stalemates

In using these 3 interpretive lenses as examples, I am clearly avoiding the obvious: I have become an important part of their system. The couple gives numerous examples of this: "What would Lewis say?" "What has Lewis taught us to try when we find ourselves beginning to behave this way?" "How is Lewis going to help us rescript this episode?" These questions only touch the surface of the fact that I am now part of the problem.