A system and method for controlling access to an electronic message recipient

A system and method for selectively allowing or denying access to a user coupled to an electronic communications network includes a receiver that receives an inbound message over the electronic communications network from a sender. The inbound message includes an identifier that is associated with a sender and an identifier that is associated with a recipient. The system also includes a processor that determines if the identifier associated with the recipient was previously generated by the user and is absent from a plurality of proxy identifiers associated with the recipient. The processor is further determines one of at least three security states associated with the inbound message. A first security state is indicative of allowing delivery of the inbound message to the user. A second security state is indicative of denying delivery of the inbound message to the user. A third security state is indicative of conditionally allowing delivery of the message to the user. Each of the three security states are ass