Designing a package to adjust perfectionism towards spouse with a cognitive-behavioral approach with emphasis on Islamic sources

Background and purpose: Perfectionism towards the spouse is associated with very high expectations from the spouse and causes conflict and dissatisfaction in the family. The purpose of this study was to develop an educational package to modify perfectionism towards the spouse with an Islamic behavioral cognitive approach.Methods: In this research, two qualitative and quantitative methods have been used. First, in order to find the components and techniques and to make an educational package, related data from Islamic teachings and psychological texts were collected and analyzed by qualitative content analysis method and grounded theory approach. Then to evaluate the validity of the content, 12 experts' opinions on goals, techniques and homework were considered. After deleting and correcting some items based on experts' opinions, the final package of extremist perfectionism adjustment towards the spouse was presented. Results: The findings of the present study showed that the training package for modifying perfectionism towards the spouse with an Islamic behavioral cognitive approach, consists of fourteen sessions, ninety minutes that include 1) establishing a therapeutic relationship and evaluation 2) Decrease self-centeredness, 3) Decrease high expectations of spouse, 4) Decrease domination over spouse, 5) Increase differentiation towards spouse, 6) Increase flexibility, 7) Strengthen forgiveness, 8) Strengthen attention to thoughts And feelings of the spouse, 9) improving the relationship with the spouse's family, 10) positivity towards the spouse, 11) correcting cognitive distortions towards the spouse, 12) reducing emotional sensitivity and irritability, 13) reducing extreme sensitivity to details, 14) Reduce work and social problems and summarize meetings...